A couple of weeks ago I spoke a few times about how people like to put labels on things…objects and people!
In this last week I become all to aware once again that people are very quick to put labels on others. What has become very visible to me is that people tend to put labels of others that they know very little about. In other words, it’s as if the impression they get of someone is based on nothing more than what they see or hear, rather than on actually getting to know and understand the person in question.
As I said in Labels Can Stick, once people put a label on you, it can be difficult to get rid of it, not least because the person who gave you that label already has a preconceived idea of who/what you are and can often be unwilling to consider their initial thoughts are incorrect, and that can really hurt deeply.
So what do you do when you find out you have been mislabeled?
The first thing I would say is, does it matter that you’ve been mislabeled?
Secondly, does it matter to you that a particular person has mislabeled you?
Whatever your answer to these questions, you’ve got a difficult job ahead, trying to change someone’s opinion of you. Having said that though, if the label was definitely inaccurate, the real you should shine through and show that person that they got you wrong – Please note, this make take some time!
In conclusion, can I urge you not to label others, particularly those you know very little about other than in a specific situation. e.g. member of a sports club, work, school, church etc. We must never judge others, so please join me in trying to stop mislabeling!