I wonder how many people have ever googled, “What to do when you feel lonely?” – When they feel those deep pangs of loneliness and don’t know how they can cope.
When we go to the doctors, we don’t expect them to give us a prescription before we even tell them our symptoms do we, so why do we hope for help when we ask a generic question about loneliness without first trying to establish why we feel lonely?
Instead of randomly trying things, hoping a generic one solution fits all will suddenly solve our problems, and then losing further hope and feeling worse when it doesn’t work, it’s better to identify what is causing you to feel lonely first. For example
- If you used to be happy in your own company, what’s changed?
- Do your friends make you feel lonely?
- Do you feel isolated or alone at work or in your daily surrounding?
Once you identify the real cause of your loneliness it will help you find a way to take appropriate action and find a solution.