I was taught as a child, that as a Christian, I should always be willing to help others, but tending to their needs. I was taught that when someone asks for help with something, I should always give willingly of my time, simply because someone asked for my help. I remember someone (not my parents) telling me that it would be selfish of me to say, ‘No’, when someone asked for help.
I realised a number of years ago, that while as a Christian we should try and always help those who ask for our help, we have to look after ourselves just as much as we try and help others. After all what use are we to others if we’re exhausted, overloaded, and maybe even unwell?
As Christians we understand that we must show love to others, but we can often forget to show love to ourselves. It’s ok not to always help others when they need help, as ultimately we need to look after ourselves as much, if not more, than we try to look after others.
We are not God. God alone can help everyone in need.
This quote sums up my thoughts perfectly.
Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others
‘Let your life speak: Listening for the voice of vocation’ by Parker Palmer
The Distinct Dot 