Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

You’ve just been on holiday from work for over 2 weeks, it’s the night before you’re due back in the office, how do you feel?

Well this was me last night, Sunday night, and my main feeling was, “Do I have to go back to work tomorrow?” Why is it that just like weekends, time off work, always seems to fly in, but the weekdays when you are working seem to take forever?

It’s on days like this that I wish I could just decide not to go back to work again, but unfortunately that for me, like many of you, is not an option.

During my time off, I’ve managed to completely forget about work, and all the things that are outstanding, or that I have to sort out or organise when I go back to work. Even now (Sunday night), I’m still trying my best not to think about the hundreds of emails that’ll be sitting in my inbox when I login in the morning, or how many of them I need to respond to, and how many meetings have been added to my calendar in my absence etc etc.

Oh I’m not looking forward to going back to work, not because I don’t like the work I do, because I do, but because I’ve been enjoying spending some quality time with hubby. It’s been good not to have any pressing engagements or things to do, and just being able to decide on a daily basis what we wanted to do that day…I could get used to that!

Anyway, by the time you’re reading this I will hopefully have survived my first day back at work; my two weeks off will now seem like weeks ago already; and I’ll already be counting down to next weekend already!

Hope you all have a great week, whatever and wherever you find yourselves.

That moment when you have to agree it’s time to say goodbye to your family pet.

When I was growing up we had a cat who was 1 year older than me…yes, my Mum and Dad got a cat before I came along. Most of my childhood we had that same cat, as I was 15 before that cat had to be put to sleep because she wasn’t well.

When I got married, we got a cat on our 1st wedding anniversary, and so that cat became a huge part of our married life. After having that cat for almost 20 years, we finally had to make that heart wrenching decision to put him down as he was so unwell.

It was awful. There was a huge emptiness in our home, as other than the first year of our marriage, the cat had been part of our married life. It was a big change for us not having a cat around the house anymore.

Some of you who have never owned a pet, will probably think we were daft getting all upset when we had to say goodbye to our furry family friends. However those of you who have had a pet at some time, will totally understand that our pets just become another member of our family. Therefore, when our pets die, it is ok that we get upset, just as we do when a person we love dies.

As I mentioned yesterday (in What does home mean? #1), home for most of us is where we live. However for some, they may consider more than one place or house to be their “home”.

Confused? Let me explain – Home can be the place were we currently live, but it could also be the place where we used to live, where our parents still live, where we grew up.

home-sweet-homeThat was true for me until just a few months ago, as home for me was the place where I lived with my husband, but home was also still the place I grew up in, where my Mum still lived. Sadly my Mum passed away last year, and so we moved back to the home I had grown up in, to my Mum and Dad’s house.

It’s been strange in many ways being back “home”, with my Mum and Dad no longer there, and it now being our home. I still find myself talking about “my Mum and Dad’s house”  instead of “our house” even although we’ve been living here for a few months now, although I guess for me it’ll always be “Mum and Dad’s house” as I spent many of my childhood years here, and this was the house I left from the day I got married.

Strangely it didn’t take me very long to stop calling our flat “home” after we moved out, even though we’d lived there for all our married life. For me now though, there is just one home, and that’s both the home I grew up in and the home I’m living in once again.

What does home mean to you?

I recently heard someone say that a couple who had recently become parents, had been given the gift of a baby by God, because they would be great parents.

Awh, that was a lovely thing to say wasn’t it? Well yes to some it was, but what about to those who have wanted to have children, but for some reason they have been unable to have a child, imagine how that statement may have made them feel…Does God not think they would have been great parents since they haven’t been given the gift of a child from God?

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I know it’s highly unlikely that there was any intention to upset anyone when those comments were made, but it is an example of how one person’s joy can ultimately be an awful reminder to someone else of a painful event/situation.

I must admit I find it difficult at times when much of life is focused on families with children, because it can feel like those without children are outsiders. Does this ring any bells? Last week I spoke about making sure we are inclusive and don’t exclude anyone from events/discussion just because they are different from us in any way.

As I said in yesterday’s blog post (Childless #1), many just assume that because you’ve been married for a number of years and have reached a certain age, that you have children. That in itself can be hard enough to come to terms with sometimes, but when others look at you as if you’ve just told them you have a highly contagious disease, it is simply heartbreaking.

broken heart

These days it seems that many consider relationships to be disposable – What do I mean by that? – Well, it seems to me that many don’t seem to consider their relationships important, as relationships seem to start and end frequently these days without the people concerned putting much effort into trying to make their relationship work.

putting God first

For those of us who believe in Christ, we can be sure that if we put God first in our lives, we can be sure He will help us build lasting relationships with those we love.

In Relationships #1#2, #3, #4, #5  and #6 I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. i-love-youRelationship is an art.  The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.  ~Don Miguel Ruiz
  2.  Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.  ~Miles Franklin
  3. Having someone wonder where you are when you don’t come home at night is a very old human need.  ~Margaret Mead
  4. Assumptions are the termites of relationships.  ~Henry Winkler
  5. Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.  ~Swedish proverb
  6. Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough.  ~Dinah Shore
  7. Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.  ~Emily Kimbrough
  8. There are days when you need someone who just wants to be your sunshine and not the air you breathe.  ~Robert Brault
  9. Sometimes it is the person closest to us who must travel the furthest distance to be our friend.  ~Robert Brault
  10. Never give up on someone you can’t go a day without thinking about.  ~Author unknown

My personal favourite is #8, because it’s a great reminder to us all that we all suffer trouble in our lives at some time, and when we do, we must try and help ourselves by sharing our troubles with those who love us as if they truly love us, they will give us the love and support we need.

I hope that whenever you suffer times of troubles, you have someone who loves you enough to share you troubles with them.

In Relationships #1#2, #3, #4 and #5, I indicated that during my wanderings through the internet, I’d come across a lot of statements and quotes about relationships. So it time to share some more of my favourites:

  1. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.i-love-you
  2. Don’t mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.
  3. Love doesn’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and messing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
  4. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else blessings instead of your own.  Don’t waste your time on jealousy.  The only person you’re competing against is yourself.
  5. Don’t ever change just to impress someone. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a better future.
  6. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will.  Stay in touch.
  7. If you love someone, tell them.  Forget about the rules or the fear of looking ridiculous.  What is really ridiculous is passing up on an opportunity to tell someone that your heart is invested in them.
  8. Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.
  9. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  10. When someone gives you their time, they are giving you a portion of their life that they will never get back.  It’s one of
    the most precious gifts you can receive. Don’t waste it.

My personal favourite is #8, because often those small seemingly insignificant acts of kindness and be the huge significant act of love that someone was needing to life their spirits.

I hope that whatever loses you may have faced, you have become stronger for them and have been able to move forward with your life.

Soul-Mate

Posted: May 19, 2013 in family, friendship, life, love
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Loving someone is giving them the power to break your heart, but trusting them not to ~  Julianne Moore

Not someone I think I’ve ever quoted from, but I felt this one particularly true.

Yes, loving someone means you open yourself up to all kinds of hurt if you fall in love with someone you doesn’t love and care for you as you do them. Conversely, when you find your soul-mate you can trust them without ever fearing you cannot trust them.

I’ve found my love-mate, I hope you’ve either already found your soul-mate, or if not, you find them soon.

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a-friend-in-need-is-a-friend-indeedIn the last few weeks, I think it would be fair to say that I’ve been struggling physically and emotionally with a few things. So much so that there have been several times when I have been about to contact a close friend of mine to chat to them, as they are always very supportive and understanding towards me.

Nothing unusual about that is there? Well actually there is….the person is question that I was going to talk to passed away a while ago! I hope you don’t find that creepy, I’m only trying to convey to you how strong a relationship we can sometimes have with other who are not related to us but who are very close friends.

Since my friend died, I’ve found myself often thinking of calling x, but I’ve always managed to stop myself calling them before I’ve actually picked up the phone!

So what now, who did I contact? Well I quickly reminded myself that while It’s fine to have close friends we can truly rely on, I must not to make them the first person I turn to when I’m in need, God must always be the first person I turn to for help and advice.

I know that although my friend has passed away, they are still watching over me from heaven, and while they may can no longer give me the advice and support they used to, God will provide the support I need today and everyday.

God is always here for us…here’s Mark Schultz singing He Is:

A few weeks ago I came across the following which was titled “The Seven Keys to Life“:

  1. God first
  2. Love one another
  3. Never hate
  4. Give generously
  5. Live simply
  6. Forgive quickly
  7. Be kind to everyone

What do you think? I think it’s a good list to follow. After all if we always put God first in our life how can we go wrong!

Did you notice that at number 7 is that word “forgive” again – It seems to have come up a lot in my blog posts this weeks (i.e. in The Power of Forgiveness and Always Forgive?), doesn’t that just show how important it is that we do actually forgive those who hurt us in any way.

So the key to living life is summarised in the seven keys listed above…is it really that easy?

Yes, seven may not seem like much but each one of those items are very difficult to do, particularly all the time. Therefore as with everything in life, we must put our faith and trust in God, and allow Him to help and guide us in life. Keep focusing on God and you’ll find you’re able to succeed at these living life the way God needs and wants you to.