Archive for February, 2017

Everyone is different; Everyone has different hopes and dreams; Everyone reacts differently to every situation and feels different emotions.

Just as we are all different, so are the reasons people feel lonely.

alone2When our circumstances change – e.g. move to a new area, start a family, divorce, bereavement, unemployment – some find it exciting and positive while others will find it painful, emotional and very lonely.

If your partner or job boosted your self-esteem and made your life meaningful is suddenly no longer there, everything, you may find life feels hopeless and futile.

While we can be in control of some of our circumstances, others are just part of life – it’s these circumstances that can contribute to feelings of loneliness. As I mentioned yesterday, identifying the real cause of your loneliness is the first step to you overcoming it, and that is true if the cause of your loneliness is your circumstances.

Good luck!

I wonder how many people have ever googled, “What to do when you feel lonely?” – When they feel those deep pangs of loneliness and don’t know how they can cope.

lonelinessWhen we go to the doctors, we don’t expect them to give us a prescription before we even tell them our symptoms do we, so why do we hope for help when we ask a generic question about loneliness without first trying to establish why we feel lonely?

Instead of randomly trying things, hoping a generic one solution fits all will suddenly solve our problems, and then losing further hope and feeling worse when it doesn’t work, it’s better to identify what is causing you to feel lonely first. For example

  • If you used to be happy in your own company, what’s changed?
  • Do your friends make you feel lonely?
  • Do you feel isolated or alone at work or in your daily surrounding?

Once you identify the real cause of your loneliness it will help you find a way to take appropriate action and find a solution.

Good luck!


Ever get fed up having to wait for others to complete their tasks so you can start your? Ever get fed up having to rely on others to deliver goods or services you’ve ordered?

It can be frustrating at times having to rely on others, but consider this, does God get fed up waiting for us to do His, does He give up on us when we struggle to do His will? No he doesn’t!

Therefore when we think it’s easier for us to go solo and not have to wait for, or rely on others, remember God never gives up on us, and even when we delay things that God wants us to do, He still is there for us, and never considers ‘going solo’ just because we frustrate Him.


Do you remember when you were learning to ride a bike and it seemed so difficult you wondered if you’d ever master it? How about learning to read or write, do you remember struggling to read or write or spell words properly?

For most of us each of those tasks will have become second nature to us. I.e. We don’t even think about it when we jump on our bike, pick up a book or start writing a note. I was however reminded just recently that while I am able to read and write, there are still words that I come across which I don’t know what they mean or even how to pronounce them – My example is around an email I received from someone who simply indicated a meeting had been cancelled “due to an inquorate of people”.

Well the first thing I did was looked up “inquorate” as I had no idea what it meant or how it should be pronounced, but did assume it was to do with people and the meeting, but that was about all I could get from this email. It turns out all it meant was there were insufficient people available to attend the meeting – Why not just say that, why use a word that is not in the common vocabulary! It turned out that the other people due to attend the meeting also had to check what inquorate meant as they didn’t know either, so at least it wasn’t just me!

One part of my project we’re doing just now at work involves ensuring the system we are developing  is written in plain English. i.e. It is written with the reader in mind and with the right tone of voice, that is clear and concise. With this is mind, it really makes me wonder why some people feel it necessary to use uncommon or non standard words when there are simpler, every day words that would explain the situation or circumstance much better!


Out on a limb

Posted: February 24, 2017 in belief, music, religion, words
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Isolated; Stranded; Separate; Marooned; Cut off; Set apart

…all words that describe what the phrase “out on a limb” means.

All these words are quite scary aren’t they, they give a real sense of being alone, and that is never nice.

There is a positive in this though, as being “set apart” for Christ is what God wants us to be, because we must stand out from the crowd, and stand up for who and what we believe in…set apart for our God.

Set Apart by Tim Hughes

Back to our first love
Nothing between us
Back to Your heart to the start of it all
Where we found You

Out of the ashes
Into the fire
You are refining our hearts in the flames
Of Your presence

Set apart for our God above
Set apart for the One we love
Set apart for Your glory
We are Yours Yours

Everything for You alone
Everything to make You known
Set apart for Your glory
We are Yours Yours

Sacred and holy
Your Name is worthy
Jesus awaken our hearts now to be
Your revival

Oh how great You are
Oh how great You are

A strange phrase isn’t it, so what does it mean?

It means you are very open about your emotions. Imagine in your mind’s eye the heart, the source of all your feelings and emotions, being worn on the sleeve, your deepest inner feelings displayed outside you for all to see.

Does that description send a shiver down your spine, or just make you think, “yeah ok”?

For me it’s definitely the former, as I am not someone who ever likes to let people see my deepest emotions, it makes me feel very vulnerable, and that’s not something I’m comfortable with.

Are you happy wearing your heart on your sleeve?


When we’re asked a question, we can often give elaborate answers which really tell the questioner nothing. So for the following questions I’m looking for single word answers only :


  1. What’s your biggest regret?
  2. What do you want to change about you?
  3. Have you forgiven those who have hurt you in the past?
  4. Do you pray daily?
  5. Where is your sanctuary?

Whatever your answers, did you answer honestly or did you give the answers you think you should be giving?

If you didn’t answer honestly, can I suggest you try again, but this time be honest with yourself, because if you are, you might get an insight into the ares of your life you need to change.


Open arms

Posted: February 21, 2017 in blogging, church, life, love, music, Relationships, religion

Even though in yesterday’s post Returning it probably seemed a very negative post, there is at least one thing we can take a s positive when we return to church after an absence…and that is God!

God will always welcome us with open arms when we approach Him, regardless of whether it has been a week, a month, or even years since you last talked with God, or went to church.

Let’s make sure we are as welcoming to others when they come to worship God as God is, because ultimately we are the first people other will see/talk to when they enter your church, so make them welcome.

Today’s post follows on from last Monday’s post, Absent, about being absent from work or church.

When you’ve been off work for a period of time, either a few days, weeks or even months, what happens when you return to work? Do you just turn up and get back to work as if nothing has happened, or do you do a phased return (i.e. return to work on a part-time basis building up gradually to full-time again), or do you have to attend a return to work interview with your boss/manager?

Many places these days allow for phased returns to work and hold return to work interviews with their employees to to discuss you’re well-being and ensure you get the support/help you need to be back at work. The usefulness of these return to work interviews I guess is very dependent on your boss and your relationship with them.

What about if you’ve been absent from church, what happens, or what should happen when you return?

I guess it depends how missed you are – In other words, if many people contacted you while who were missing, many will check on your well-being when you return to church again; Similarly, if few contacted you when you missed church, that probably show you weren’t particularly missed, and so you are probably just greeted by others as if you’ve never been missing from church.


As I said last week, if we call ourselves Christians, we should be supporting and caring for those around us – and that includes our family, friends, work colleagues, fellow church members – and must do so for everyone, not just those we consider our close friends or family.

When someone returns to church after an absent of even just one week, their fellow Christian brothers and sisters should reach out to them to check how they are, and encourage them by telling them that they have been missed, otherwise they’ll think no-one has even noticed they were missing!

Crying out

Posted: February 19, 2017 in bible, depression, life, music, quotes, religion, stress
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Whatever we need, whenever you need it, God will be there when you cry out to Him, when you need help.

God can and will heal all your wounds and take away all your worries.