Posts Tagged ‘Perfection’

Are you looking for simple ways to encourage your heart and nourish your soul?

In the last while I’ve given you some ideas which will hopefully inspire you to implement them in your own life, and over the coming weeks I’ll share some others with you.

So here’s today’s suggestion:

Accept your imperfections

I personally am guilty of expecting perfect from myself, but over the years I’m come to accept at least some of my imperfections. In doing so I’ve found it does reduce the stress and leaves more room for acceptance.

So when your life feels like a sinking boat and everything is going wrong for you, it’s not the time time to insist or expect perfection from yourself. Yes, there will still be some things which need to perfect, but others won’t. e.g. A slightly overcooking dinner – You’ll not poison anyone so it doesn’t need to be perfect; Your hair isn’t styled the way you want – Unless you’re a model and going to be on the cover of a fashion magazine, I’m sure it doesn’t matter what your hair looks like…

 

There are only 24 hours in a day, so whatever your stresses are should quite rightly take your focus, so it’s definitely time to lower your high personal expectations and standards…at least for the time being.

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I recently had a conversation with a friend about how we both thought we weren’t very proficient at a task/role that we each have to undertake. We both expressed our annoyance/disappointment with ourselves at the mistakes we were making, however to each other, we were both doing well!

As I said to my friend, I guess as we are both perfectionists we don’t like the imperfections in ourselves, including those imperfections which only we see.

Being a perfectionist has its positives, as we always strive to do everything perfectly, but that in itself is a negative unless we learn to accept that we cannot be perfect – It would be great if we could but realistically that isn’t ever going to happen for us or anyone else.

We must therefore accept ourselves as we are, imperfections and all, otherwise we will never truly be happy as we will never be perfect.

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How often do you put yourself down, or reprimand yourself for something you’ve done, or not done?

If you’re anything like me, you’ll do that on a daily basis! I know I’m a perfectionist and therefore always expect myself to do everything perfectly. Thankfully as I’ve got older, I’ve come to realise that while I should always strive to do my best, I should not expect perfection from myself at all time, as that simply is not achievable.

This means I now try my best not to get annoyed at myself when I do not achieve perfection…after all who can achieve perfection except God?

Make an agreement with God to never again speak negative thinks about yourself ~ Joyce Meyer

I therefore pray that I may accept myself for who I am, failures and imperfections as well as my achievements and successes, because God accepts me for being me, so why shouldn’t I!

I read the following quote recently, and decided that if I was looking for a catchphrase this should be mine, as it is so me!

We fear rejection, want attention, crave affection and dream of perfection.

Rejection

I doubt I’m alone in fearing rejection. Rejection can be a horrible thing to cope with, and I think once you’ve experienced it once you never want to feel like that ever again.

Don’t despair though, turn to Jesus, He will never reject you!

Attention

Ever felt alone in a crowd? If you have, you will understand why sometime we all want attention…but not too much!

Again don’t despair, Jesus will always be attentive to your needs.

Affection

When life is tough and you’re struggling to cope, a hug from a friend is often all I crave. It’s not that I think a friend could necessarily help with anything in particular, but simply that by getting a hug from them it reminds me that they really do care about me.

We must never forget Jesus will always care for us in every situation we find ourselves in.

Perfection

I’ve spoken before about the fact that I’m a perfectionist (see I Want Perfection), and that hasn’t changed, I still crave perfection.

None of us will ever achieve perfection, however by believing in Jesus, we can do the best we can to become more like Him, perfect!

Yes, I’m a perfectionist, and when I don’t achieve perfection I am disappointed in myself!

Yes I know that’s really really tough on myself, but it’s who I am…I’m a perfectionist, I always have been and probably always will be!

Not only do I get annoyed and frustrated at myself when I don’t achieve perfection, I also get frustrated when those I’m with don’t  do thinks perfectly either – In the past this has sometimes made things difficult for me, and others as I forget that just like me, other’s aren’t perfect either, and both them nor me will ever be perfect.

So why do I seek perfection?

I was taught as a child to always do my best, and that my best was always good enough…no matter how I compared to others.

I was taught as a child that no-one is perfect. Only one person on earth has ever been perfect and that was Jesus.

Therefore all we humans can do is strive be perfect. i.e. We can strive to be more and more like Jesus.